The Secret Life Principles that Successful People Hide Part II

This is a continuation of part 1 of the Secret Life Principles.

25) the next principle is to build your metaphysical connection to reality 

we can rephrase this principle as just pursue spirituality or be spiritual and

what that means is developing your connection to reality but your metaphysical connection and what that

means is that means realizing that you're not just some creature some

mammalian meat bag who is living on this rock that's rotating around the Sun but

rather that you are the entire universe you're not an object that is within existence you are existence itself to

realize that I am the whole universe as I stand here that is only possible through all of the metaphysical

contemplations and various meditations that I have done for many many years and that are starting to develop within me

and it's only going to develop more and more and more and the more that happens the better your life becomes because now you feel like life is not just about

living and surviving and doing chores for people but it's it's just

about connecting more and more with yourself as the entire universe and being more conscious.

26) The next principle is counter-intuitive

'No such a profound point which means is that reality is deeply

counterintuitive almost every facet of anything worthwhile that you want to

accomplish in life you're gonna notice the counterintuitive it that means

that reality is gonna work the opposite of how you think it will work until you

get a lot of experience with it so for example if you're a man trying to attract a woman a beautiful woman

attracting a beautiful woman is very counterintuitive because you have to do the opposite of what you think you would

have to do to attract her you would think that you'd have to go up and brag to her and show off your big muscles and

all that and counter-intuitively if you do that you're going to repel her and that takes a lot of experience

to unlearn that naive intuition that you had and to learn how it works and

other examples for example business in business to earn money and be successful you have to do the opposite of what you

would think for example you might

think in business the best way to earn a bunch of money is just to go to market to everybody as many eyeballs as possible

make my message as most generic as possible so it appeals to absolutely everybody but if you do that in business

these what's gonna happen is that you're gonna fail it's much better to to

narrow your niche and your focus and only target your advertising and sales and your product to a very narrow

a specific group of people like less than 1% of the entire population and you would think that but below that means

I'm alienating 99% of people, yes but you're gonna convert that other 1%

whereas if you try to appeal to everybody you're gonna convert nobody and that's just one of the many

counterintuitive things that you'll discover in business relationships are

also very counterintuitive happiness the pursuit of happiness is counterintuitive

fear is counterintuitive emotions are counterintuitive like I said, literally every aspect of life is

so counterintuitive it works the opposite of what you would initially think it would work and so actually

a corollary principle to this is and this is a very powerful principle as almost stupid as it sounds do the

opposite of what everybody else is doing I can't explain to you just how much

leverage I've gotten out of following this one principle in my life sometimes I will just see what the

common thing people do and I'll just do the opposite just based on this principle purely on this principle and

the reason that is is that I know that what most people are doing isn't making them happy nor is it making them

successful what most people are doing is they're getting very mediocre results in all areas of life and so if I do what

they do I expect I'll get mediocrity so almost as a default what I do is I just

try to be a contrarian to the opposite our most people meditating know so I'll meditate are most people taking

psychedelics no so I'll take psychedelics most people you know

working hard to discover their life purpose now so I'll do that now of

course you can find exceptions to this so I wouldn't recommend you apply this in a robotic

way like so by this logic does it mean that you know most people aren't taking heroin so I should take care

no of course not so you have to be intelligent in how you apply this principle but generally speaking it's

because reality is so counterintuitive it's pretty smart you know after you realize how counterintuitive things are

the next time you go into a fresh situation you almost start to expect that well I expect the situation should

work like this but I also know that reality is so counterintuitive and I've been burned so many times

before the counterintuitive things let me just now do the opposite thing first and see if that works and

oftentimes it will work the first time see you learn that lesson hmm

28) The next core principle is that non-duality is the ultimate truth reality is non-dual which means that all boundaries all categories and all distinctions ultimately collapse they're all relative

there is no distinction between inside/outside physical and non-physical me

other good bad black/white human

non-human living nonliving organic-inorganic scientific versus religious so all of these dualities all of these will

ultimately collapse they don't hold if you follow them all the way this is a

super profound truth and this one principle can help you to cut through so much delusion and to see how the mind

constructs all these categories and distinctions very helpful to see

how most of the things you were taught as a child up through university have just been categories

that were constructed by the human mind by the human race and that many of these distinctions are purely conceptual

they're not absolute in any sense and they will ultimately all collapse as you keep observing deeper and deeper

keep meditating keep contemplating keep having mystical experiences all this will ultimately collapse into one unity

one ultimate absolute truth which leads us to

29) the next core principle is that absolute truth exists but it cannot be thought believed imagined communicated spoken

written proven or argued this is very

difficult for most people to accept especially many scientifically minded rationally minded people they tend to

assume that if absolute truth does exist then it must be possible to prove it or

argue it communicate it write about it imagine it or think about it but the fact is that it's not because

all those are limited and the absolute truth is unlimited it's absolute that's

what makes it so interesting and special and important so this is just a brute

the fact of reality you can go test it for yourself and if you discover the

absolute truth what I'm claiming is that if you do the practices one day you will discover the absolute truth and once you

do you realize that it cannot be thought believed imagined communicated

spoken written proven or argued and yet you will know about it more certainly

then you know anything else in the world how is that possible well it can't

be explained or imagined or communicated but it is possible through mystical experience through lots of

observation again that's that's very

important It's a super important principle because a lot of people get stuck arguing and trying to communicate and

imagine and think about absolute truth and you need to just know right off the bat that that's just not possible

so stop wasting your time doing that you waste a lot of time doing that you waste

years and decades doing that just stop it your life will go a lot better

30) another core principle is that reality is not Material reality is not a physical object of any kind reality is a

giant mind everything you think is physical like walls roads cars

planets solar systems it's all one mind

these are all imaginings within a mindscape and there is nothing outside

of mindscape, mindscape is all that there ever is and again this is not something

you believe this is something that you experience through direct observation lots and lots and lots of observation

psychedelics help a lot as well the next closely related principle is

31)that life is a dream

Life is a Dream or I explain this but it just basically is what it sounds like life is a dream what you have here is just a dream

there is no external world beyond this dream that you're in it's a dream just

like the dreams you have when you're asleep at night and just like those it's possible to awaken from the dream so you

can awaken from life this is a super important principle because it helps you

to disidentify from all of your attachments that you have to this dream you start taking the dreamless

seriously and that's very important for living the good life to live the good

the life you must awaken from the dream otherwise you're always gonna be haunted by this dream and the stuff that happens

within it in the same way that you know a nightmare terrifies you only because

you're not aware that you're inside a dream but once you realize that it's just a dream the nightmare is no longer

a big deal and you know where

32) the next core principles that reality is infinite and that god is a real thing,

not the Christian God sitting up in the clouds with a beard judging you but the word God points to

something very real it points to infinity and just what that is and how

it works that's complicated I won't get into that here it's also very controversial it's also much

misunderstood with many traps uh this is also the same as talking about the absolute so you can see that there's a

problem talking about or communicating about it because it's the absolute but I have episodes I have a two-part

series called what's it called it's called um understanding absolute

infinity parts one and two go check that out that explains a lot of what infinity

means and how reality could be infinite and what God is and I'll have future episodes about what God is explaining

33) that the next very important principle is that you are God

so God is not something separate from you you are God not in the egotistical sense that you are a God and you can do

anything you want in the world and you can be an delusional and be arrogant not that way I mean you

created yourself you created the entire universe you are the entire universe this is a very advanced mystical insight

that you will only get from years and years of meditation and spiritual

practice but you can get there and you must realize that you are God because only then will you

take full responsibility for your life and only then will you understand how profound life is and what existence

34) is closely related follow-up principle to this is that God is the devil

there is no difference between God and the devil they are the same thing because again what non-duality tells us

is that every duality including the duality between god and the devil is

ultimately gonna collapse into a unity so God and the devil must collapse into

a unity that tells you you know what's the value of knowing that God is nil well the value of it is that you

stopped seeing evil and being bothered by evil so much because you realize that in all the evil you see out there there's a

higher intelligence behind it it exists for a reason it's part of infinity it's

part of all the stuff that you need to love to embrace and also calling it the devil the reason understanding the

The Devil is so important by the way I have a whole episode about what is the devil really good episode go check that one out I think it's one of my best ones

they will change your whole understanding of this duality that you know you need to understand

selfishness you need to understand where evil comes from you need to understand

why reality is so deceptive you need to

understand Maya in other words and you need to understand that this is part of God God is the one to self-deceptive

and that's how reality comes into existence through various forms of deception and that's

why do we say it's all one mind it's all a dream and so one aspect of this dream is

that it's very hypnotic and it's very self-deceptive and it's very twisted and it can be very neurotic

and pathological at times that's all part of the entire whole that's not

something to cut out and to ignore that's something to understand into a brace otherwise you you will be

yourself pathological by denying those aspects of reality another very

35) important principle is that all identity is relative and fluid so literally, there is no identity within reality other than

oneness so any limited identities that you create like you as a body you as a

biological organism you as somebody who was born to certain parents or maybe you

identify with your car or you identify with your house you're dead or how is your job all of these identities that you have they're all relative they're all

constructions of your mind they're not true and they're fluid and they can change and they have

been changing for all of your life and

that's very very significant to understand and any identity that other people take out there whether they're

individuals or entire cultural identities or political parties take identities companies created and these

all of these identities that are being created this is all part of the ego the ego mind individual ego mine collective ego

mind and this is all part of how God and the devil work through creating these

identities it's why you feel that you're a living creature but

all these identities are rather arbitrary and they're they are

malleable they're changeable and this is uh this is very good news because it means you can change what you identify

which means you can actually disidentify with your physical body and also your mind and identify yourself

with the ultimate with the absolute which ends up being the trick for

overcoming death and attaining immortality as preposterous as that

sounds like it is nevertheless possible and it is true

 36) the next core principle is at 99.999% of people are deluded and asleep and they don't know about any of the

things that I am explaining here today and that are extremely important to

understand because otherwise what's gonna happen is that you're gonna get lost in the delusions and a sleepness of

all the other people who are surrounding you it's precisely because all the other people are so asleep that you can't look

to them, for advice or guidance because you look over here you look over

there you see people doing stupid stuff you see people not doing this work and then you think oh well that means I

should be doing what they're doing I'm weird for not doing what they're doing but actually no they're the weird ones there to dilute it once so keep that in

mind this is why you won't get a bunch of confirmation from science and from

medical community from other traditional sources about the things that I talk about because they're not there yet.

37) The next closely related principle which is that society is still in the dark ages yes we're in the 21st century but stop thinking of the

21st century as being some kind of highly advanced society no no we are

still adolescents as a species we are

very very immature very unconscious very emotionally stunted very repressed very neurotic

very pathological very dysfunctional as a species and our understanding of

reality and consciousness and how to live the good life is very crude akin to

the kind of medical knowledge that existed in the dark ages or they would use leeches and other sorts of crude

techniques to cure people they ended up killing many people rather than curing them that's the state

of current society's understanding of spirituality psychology philosophy

science and many other things so do not get seduced by this facade that's

directed by society where we tend to think that all well we've already gone through the dark ages and now we're out

of the dark ages now we're very technologically advanced than we have planes and cars and phones and all of these computers and stuff and because of

this we know everything that's just a facade don't get tricked by it and the

the reason it's important to realize that we're in the dark ages is that again that explains to you why you're not getting all this confirmation from your

society it's because you're assuming your society is far more advanced than it is so don't expect

society to just give you these answers while you're on social media or watching cable TV the kind of advertisements

You're getting there has nothing to do with how to live a good life it's all the opposite again this is

one of the counterintuitive elements of life is that the things that you're

taught mostly in school and through the media and in the culture or precisely those things which lead to living a

mediocre miserable life which of course explains why everyone or most people are

living such a mediocre miserable life

38) the next core principle is development and Awakening not either or both of you

want to awaken from the dream that you're in but also you need to learn how

to mass star living in the dream and develop yourself within the dream these are sort

of like two core avenues of growth that

you're working towards in your life you're developing yourself and then you're also awakening from the dream if

you only develop yourself but if you don't awaken you will get lost in the dream and you will suffer if you only awaken

but you don't develop then you're not gonna have any mastery or excellence in living in the dream and so you might be

awake and that's great but then your development is stunted in certain ways and that's also not you living up to

your full potential and getting the most juice out of life you want both and

you're gonna need a certain amount of development before you can even think about possibly awakening to really

seriously awake and you already need to be very developed in most cases it's very rare that someone just awakens

while they're completely undeveloped that's gonna be hard for you to accomplish a few rare people one in a

hundred million maybe could do that but I wouldn't count on that the next core

39) the principle is to figure out who you are and what you want out of life this is super important and it's not as easy as it

sounds like you're not just gonna sit down for ten minutes and in ten minutes figure out who you are and what you want

in life, this is something you have to work on think about contemplate the journal

about talking with coaches about talk with therapists for four years for

decades you're gonna keep honing and honing and honing and refining your understanding of who you are and what

you want from life you need as much clarity as possible about what you want from life important this

allows you to make decisions and allows you to channel your energy and your

focus towards those things that you want if you're not clear about what you want if you're wishy-washy vague and

ambiguous you're gonna get nothing that's the default thing that you get is nothing and mediocrity you're not just

gonna randomly get a bunch of good stuff and a good life by not knowing what you want you have to be very clear and decisive about what

do you want to awaken then be clear about it I want to awaken

do you want to have a house what kind of house where should it be located how

much should it cost to be clear that you want to have a girlfriend or a

spouse what kind do you want where are you gonna find them how is it gonna work do you want them if

to be very clear about all these things and about your career and everything

40) which leads to the next core principle which is authenticity 

you need to be striving every day to be more and more authentic in your life it's only when you're being authentic that you're truly

satisfied and happy and a lot of society programs you with is reasons and

incentives for being inauthentic you see throughout school and university and

when you were dating people and when you were at work trying to get a job and with your family and all this you were

you were taught to be inauthentic as a survival strategy such that you don't

even know what it means to be authentic how that feels you're so out of touch with who you are and what you

want and how you should all your body how you should behave how you should speak how you should smile like

all of this is so fake for many people so you need to get more and more in

touch with your authenticity strip away all the layers of of social conditioning

that is preventing you from being authentic and all the fears that you have and worries that are preventing you

such that you're able to express your deepest being your deepest values need to be able to express that effortlessly

to have a good life and your career needs to be authentic your speech needs

to be authentic your eye contact needs to be authentic yeah what else do you know

your relationships with your family and your spouse's and your girlfriends

and boyfriends that need to be off but for you to be able to do that to

achieve that you first need to discover who you are and what you want very clearly and also you need to

uncover the fears and incentives which

are keeping you inauthentic see like what are you really afraid of what

are you gonna lose are you gonna get rejected are you gonna be lonely and miserable or are you gonna be judged the

41) The next core principle is that you need to develop a life purpose 

it's all about clarity it's about finding the right alignment between your

values and what you really want and you're career and merging those and then working on that and

building something of lasting value there that you can offer to the world so

check out my course if you're interested in that

42) the next core principle is to take 100% responsibility for your life and

don't blame anyone observe yourself blaming people and stop doing it train

yourself to stop doing it and take full responsibility if you don't take full responsibility anything less of a

hundred percent that means you're gonna be a victim in those areas that you don't take responsibility in which means

you're gonna feel stuck and you're gonna feel miserable and depressed and bitter and annoyed and frustrated and ask the

definition of not a good life by taking responsibility you assume the burden of

solving every problem that comes your way and that makes you very resourceful

and creative because now you've committed to solving all these problems by studying them and doing self

experimentation trying different techniques turning to different sources reading books and videos and courses and all of this to solve your problems see

and it's only through this kind of attitude that you actually will end up solving your problems whereas most people just come up with

excuses and blame others or why the problems can't be fixed it's a

lot better to be able to fix a problem than to suffer through it for the rest of your life and it gives you a sense of

power and strength and self-esteem when you do that when you become a victim you

lose self-esteem and you sort of feel bad about yourself and you feel like you're weak and you're not able to handle life and then you unplug from

life you become alienated and you just kind of like go through the motions robotically and that's when you lose touch with that one of those core of for

purposes of life which is feeling alive you no longer feel alive because you're not taking challenges head-on

because you've instead opted to be a victim

43) the next core principle is to be a Leader lead themselves and lead others around them don't wait for other people to inspire

you to motivate you to tell you what to do you do that yourself be proactive be

decisive take risks this also connects

with that principle of living a life and

feeling alive This is how you feel alive as a leader being proactive being

decisive taking some risks which leads to

44) The next core principle which is to be a creator taps into the joy of creativity you have the power to be a creator and to create all sorts of beautiful

things art music film writing novels magazines websites you know entire philosophical

systems and schools and religions and spiritual groups like there's cars you

could engineer airplanes and new technologies there's so much stuff you can create pick something that you want to be a creator of and then do that

and enjoy that you do it because it's enjoyable because as god you're

participating in the creative process of all creation

and as a corollary here provides massive

value to mankind as the creator that is

something you should strive for how do I provide lots of value to mankind how do

I contribute to society and improve the world that's part of life's purpose that's

very important because if you are lacking this component in your life you're gonna feel empty and also what's

gonna happen is that other people will come and seduce you with various kinds of low-consciousness ideologies to get

you to fill that void of a lack of purpose in your life right so then what happens is that people become Nazis or

they become terrorists or they they become some like right-wing fringe guy

who posts on some forum some like racist stuff like this kind of stuff right why do people get sucked into these kinds of

low consciousness ideologies it's precisely because they lack a legitimate life purpose they are not taught how to

be powerful creators they are not able to provide massive value to the world so what they do instead is focus their

energy on demonizing judging doing violence and other sorts of schemes and manipulation tactics to get their fill

of life purpose, it's sort of like if you don't have a quality person to have sex

with then the way you're gonna it's not like you're never gonna have sex you will have sex it's just it's gonna it's

gonna be in very low-quality forms like jerking off into a plastic

cup see so it's the same sort of thing

with life purpose if you neglect life purpose you're gonna pick up all sorts of dysfunctional life purposes

unconsciously that's like the default position

45) the next core principle is that reason cannot be trusted this throws a

lot of people for a loop and this is very counterintuitive but reason and rationality cannot be trusted

all the highest insights and truths are trans-rational not irrational not less than rational

but trans meaning beyond rational think

of it this way every single criminal terrorist murderer rapist thief religious

fanatic con artists and wrongheaded

a scientist who did bad science to every single political party and every single

tyrant and dictator what do all these people have in common reason you might

think no Leo these people are all unreasonable no every single one of these people has very good reasons for

why they do what they do why what they do is exactly right and good and why they should continue doing it so how

can you trust reason by definition reason always feels reasonable to the

one whose reasoning this is what I mean by the self-deception and self-bias

see yourself biased to your chains of reasoning and what you don't

understand that reason is not a vehicle toward truth it was never

intended for that reason is concoctions by your mind by your lawyerly mind

mostly your left hemisphere for most people to justify your going

addenda that's the real function of reason so reason just like a good lawyer

will be able to craft a case and argument for any position any egoic

agenda that you have so reason cannot be trusted any time that you hear a speaker

who is making appeals to reason and is arguing and saying and kind of framing

the situation in such a way that all those people are unreasonable but I'm the reasonable one and it's through reason that we get to the truth anytime you

hear that anytime you see a person trying to be extra reasonable that's exactly the

same as looking at a person who's trying to be extra moral you become immediately suspicious that the person whose

preaching morality and how good he is and how good everyone can be but how

they're all evil and they should be as good as him and that morality is gonna solve everything you should be immediately suspicious and

you should expect that moralizing person has skeletons in their closet and they're not morally well the same

thing with reason with these people who doubt reason as a sort of ideology or a solution to everything if only we were

all a more reasonable than mankind would get along be very suspicious of that.

 46) the next core principle is to embrace paradox confusion and not knowing again

this is one of the very counterintuitive things most people think of paradox confusion and not knowing as bad things

as the opposite of personal development and the opposite of a good life but no

it's just the opposite the closer you get to the good life the more you will

embrace paradox confusion and not knowing and you will get comfortable with these things it's the person who

thinks he's figured everything out perfectly in this little model and put it all into a little model and he thinks

that that model is perfect it's consistent and it's it's is it's airtight and super logical it's that

a deluded person you can't do that with reality because reality is infinite

and all your little models and schemes are finite see my episode about doodles and completeness theorem if you

want to understand why that's impossible Kurt Durdle proved that truth

is larger than proof area counterintuitive discovery of the

47) The core principle is emotional mastery you should be very interested in mastering your emotions you should be very

interested in emotions period and how they work and spend a lot of your time observing emotions now here's a mistake

that people make about emotional mastery it's when I say emotional mastery they think oh yeah that sounds good I'll just

be hyper-rational I'll be this unemotional detached person who's above

it all that's not emotional mastery that's the suppression or repression of emotions to develop emotional mastery to

feel deeper into your emotions and this is a lot of the type of concern that women have women can object to some of

my teachings they might say Leo but you're you're teaching us how to be unemotional and robotic and I want to be

more emotional know what I'm talking about is how to be more emotional emotional mastery does not mean that you

stop experiencing emotions it means you experience emotions deeper but you're more conscious of what they are

and that's what gets you mastery and control which should also be

distinguished from outbursts of negative emotions so somebody else listening here

might say Oh so what you're saying here is to become an emotional master I have to let all my emotions out and be

fully authentic with my emotions means that if someone cuts me off in traffic I will open my window and scream expletives at that person because

I'm angry and now I'm you know being authentic I'm expressing my anger and this is developing emotional mastery no

that's not emotional mastery that's a smokescreen from fully

feeling and observing your own emotions yelling at people outbursts anger violence expressions of negative

emotions these are often just smoke screens from really self-reflecting and

and feeling your own emotions an angry person doesn't feel their

emotions they just act them out robotically

you want to read books about emotional mastery about how emotions work because emotions are so sneaky and so tricky and

you know speaking of reason and emotions these rationalists think that

reason is superior to emotions but it's the other way around

it's emotions which are dominating your reasoning process those people who are

they're not hyper-rational they're emotional

they're just not conscious of the emotions that are fueling their reason you see their reason the reason that

they're so attached to reasoning emotionally and it's because it's connected with their ego mind which is

full of emotions emotions are much more powerful in motivating you and affecting your behavior than any reasons that you

have reasons come after the fact reasons are rationalizations they're backwards

rationalizations your left hemisphere confabulates-- these reasons later justify whatever

you're doing whatever's driving you emotionally and

to live the good life you're not gonna be able to do that through reason you'd have to do that by becoming a very

observant of your emotions and it's by curing your emotions that your reasoning process will also get purified

along with that,

48) the next core principle is you must integrate the masculine and the feminine no matter whether you're a guy or a girl and whether you lead more masculine or

more feminine there's a whole spectrum there and people lean in different directions and so forth as of course, we're all aware at this point but what

you need to do whichever direction you lean in so let's say you're a man who leans masculine like most men and you're a woman who leans feminine okay so what

you need to do as a man is you need to go deeper into your masculinity and understand what it is but at the

same time you want to make sure you don't create a shadow out of the feminine so you're not doing it at the expense of the feminine you also need to

dive into your feminine side explore that master that and integrate that feminine shadow into you and you need to

become sort of a synthesis of both and you know vice-versa for the woman

this is very important for you to be able to relate properly with the opposite sex otherwise you're gonna

become masculine but you're gonna have a feminine shadow or vice versa and that's gonna create all sorts of relationship

problems for you and also you're not gonna feel as good just being macho

masculine or girly feminine without integrating the other side so like what

we're trying to become full well-rounded human beings now that doesn't mean that you need to be down

the middle 50/50 so you know if you're a masculine man I'm not saying that you need to be half masculine half feminine

you can still specialize and kind of be predominantly masculine but you also need to integrate the feminine aspects

into your psyche and make sure you don't hold any kind of grudges or judgments

about the opposite polarity,

49) the next core principle is nonmanipulation if

you do a lot of observation of your behaviors you will notice how much you manipulate all the time

the ego-mind that's sort of this whole role is to be constantly manipulating

everything you're manipulating your thoughts your face your body posture

your your relationships and in your work and in your career and all of this your

costly manipulating and so one of the things you need to do if you want to live a good life is to let go of that

manipulation more and more and more and more the less manipulative you are as a person the better your life will be the

50 )The next core principle is that everything is relative what this means is that

anything except the absolute the ultimate truth of the capital T is

relative that means that it's only known about something else and I'll

have a whole episode in the future about relativity and how that contrasts with the absolute but briefly here all

conventional understanding and even conventional experience that you have it's always relative so

an elephant is big only relative to a

mouse it's small relative to the entire earth and so on and so this is this goes

on and on and on and affects everything that you know everything you know is relative all perspectives are

your entire understanding of reality is relative to all truth claims unless they're absolute which is not

a claim at all it's it's something way beyond that all truth

claims in words all beliefs this is all relative all cultural norms all moral

standards it's all relative science is relative relative to what relative to

the human mind if the human mind has changed if the chemistry of the human mind has changed all science flies out of the

window and all changes relative see what you see what you experience what you

know politics and government and business it's all relative it's relative

to the particular circumstances in the context in which it's situated and if the context changes then the situation

changes your knowledge changes none of that is absolute there is no absolute external world physical world material

world which leads us to the

 51) next principle which is context over facts most people

get very stuck on facts but they don't realize the importance of context context is the the background within the

fit which the facts are situated

52) the next core principle is to pull from hundreds of diverse sources this is

done so that you don't get stuck in any one perspective or paradigm this is critical as you're going

through life and you're doing this whole lifelong learning thing which is one of

your principles then you need to gather from a lot of diverse sources don't just read Western books read

Eastern books don't just read Hinduism read Christianity and Greek philosophy and you know spread it

around diversifying and then fortifying your portfolio of knowledge and information just like you would stock in a stock

the market for exactly that same reason because you want to avoid getting locked into some one thing someone terrible

paradigm which is very limiting and what will happen if you study hundreds of

diverse perspectives and this is one of the core principles of actualized org is that I do this very seriously then the

the truth will get triangulated and cross-referenced from all these different sources and books you read you know you

read hundreds of books eventually it all gets triangulated in it and then it emerges the sort of the big picture

emerges that would be impossible if you were only studying one particular school

or one tradition or one guru or you know

one discipline within a university you couldn't do that and it's only because

you're studying all these diverse sources that you learn about all the traps and you learn about the full diversity of this thing called human

life and human development and there's so much more there than you could have possibly gotten from any one school

teacher or teaching which of course applies to me you can't take me as your only source you need to include me as

part of hundreds of other sources that you study from

53) the next principle is to satisfy your base needs so that you stop

craving this is very important I have a soda

that I released quite a bit ago called Using Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs to

self actualize and what I talked about there is it's all about satisfying your

lower needs your basic needs for shelter and water and food and sex and this sorts of stuff and some friendships and

some self-esteem stuff like your career you got to handle that stuff so you're not craving it so that you can move

higher up the pyramid to this higher metaphysical existential stuff that we talked about this is so important

54) The next principle of mastering your basic survival and livelihood is utterly important

if you don't do this it's as though you were a lion on the savanna and you

didn't know how to hunt a lot of people these days especially young folks I see

very often teenagers people in their early 20s know they grew up in a cushy suburb somewhere in the United States or maybe

in Europe and their parents coddled them so these kids just spent their

whole childhood playing video games and watching movies and just like [ __ ] around in school with their friends and

stuff smoking weed and this kind of stuff and then by the time they're 20 and maybe they finish even university

they get out into the real world and they have no idea about how to survive or make a livelihood and then

they start thinking about some of the high lofty things I talked about like consciousness and psychedelics and

enlightenment and this but it's like what enlightenment can there be when you don't even know how to hunt learn how to

hunt the modern-day equivalent for human beings of what a lion does on a savanna

is business learn how

business works learn how money works this is essential without

this you're gonna be crippled you need to be able to just handle the basic

basic things like paying your rent being

able to afford food if you can't do these things forget about enlightenment for now focus on handling that and of

course that's all a function of your inner game so it's not because the economy is bad that you struggle with

survival and livelihood it's because your parents and your schooling and your childhood didn't program you with

those survive the inner game survival skills that you need to earn a living in

the Savannah the modern-day Savannah that humans live in and grow up in which

is cities and suburbs see a lion needs a certain set of skills to be able to

survive in Savannah and a human in the 21st century need certain kind of skills in a certain kind of inner game in psychology to be able to

make a living and survive in a city or in a suburban environment that's super

important I spent at least probably 10

years of my life working on developing a way to be independent and survive on my own

without depending on my parents or money from other places or anything like that so I can be self-sufficient and then

it's based on that foundation that then I could go and do the higher stuff that I do I couldn't do that otherwise like

if I was worrying about how to pay my bills tomorrow I couldn't do this other work that I'm doing the higher stuff

because I would always be in this kind of cycle of fear not knowing what's next and how to make ends meet this sort of stuff

you got to figure that out if it takes you five or ten years that's okay figure that out that's basically what you need to be spending

your teenage years and you're all of your twenties up through your 30s doing you

you want to solve that by the time you're 30 ideally if not sooner the

55) The next core principle is mastery you need to have something at least one thing in

your life that you are gonna plan to become a master in I don't care what it is there are millions of options you

could be a master at drawing painting music DJing weightlifting life coaching

writing programming whatever you got to pick one thing though and do it this

jack-of-all-trades thing where you're just dabbling in a bunch of [ __ ] that doesn't work you need one thing that

you're gonna master this is connected with your life purpose this is also connected with your thing that I just

said about survival and livelihood you know the lion is a master at chasing down and lope master at hunting this gives

you a certain stability it also gives you enjoyment because your work

what you're gonna be doing most of your life the enjoyment that you get from that depends on how much of a master you

and it takes five or ten years to become a master in something so you got to pick one thing and do it so that you could

produce excellent work so that you can be a creator and you could be a massive value provider to society one of

the biggest things I think young people are screwing up on these days Millennials and so forth is that they

they just don't pursue mastery they're not a master at anything they don't know how to do anything and therefore they can't provide value to

anyone and therefore you're stuck with some kind of waitressing job or working at McDonald's yeah that's what

happens when you're a master of nothing start by mastering one thing thing

that you enjoy and you must enjoy this thing that you're gonna be mastering because you're

gonna be putting so much time and effort into it so you better enjoy it a lot now this doesn't mean you can't have hobbies

I'm not saying that like right now if you're playing a guitar just for fun and you're an amateur at it that doesn't

mean you have to become a master guitarist because hey maybe your field of mastery is programming so if you're a

master of programming sure you can go dabble in a guitar you can go dabble and

painting doesn't matter cuz you're a master in programming you got at least that one thing but if you're not a master at anything and you're just

dabbling and trying a bunch of different stuff without selecting anything and being decisive and clear about it and

not being certain about what you want to master that's gonna come back to bite

you have a hard later in life and the older you get the harder it is to master things so start young but if you're old

still do it better late than never

56) the next core principle is to be aware of distractions 

From creating the good life these distractions of course include stuff like TV pour and video games internet

social media various kinds of ideologies and family can be a distraction kids can

distraction chasing material success business money drugs all these can be distractions so you've got to be very

careful this is all part of the self-deception nation self deceptive nature of the EO mind.